[Episode 20] Three Steps To Help You Connect With Yourself

by | Jun 12, 2020

This episode we’re going to be having a deeper look at connecting with our bodies.

I know I’ve shared about this in the past but I wanted to spend some time looking at how exactly you can begin to build that connection.

It’s one thing to just talk about connecting with our bodies but a total other thing when it comes to actually taking the steps to create it.

It can be really easy to switch off from feeling our bodies. This is so common for folks that are experiencing dysphoria.

The more we can connect with and feel what’s going on in our bodies, the more we can begin to do things that help our bodies and therefore our hearts and minds feel good.

Developing a connection with our bodies can help us experience gender euphoria as we explore our identities during transition.

It helps us understand which practices we have that help us feel good physically and which ones cause us to feel not so good physically and it helps us take care of ourselves.

It can begin with practices as small as taking a moment and just asking ourselves how am I feeling and then taking notice. Do you feel energetic, tired, grumpy, anxious?

All of these feelings will usually come with a physical sensation in the body. Finding the area that connects with the feeling can be an interesting little practice and is super helpful in teaching you a little thing about your body you may not have noticed.

What are the actual steps to follow to develop the connection?


Let’s break this down into three small steps.

  1. Take a moment where you can be free to focus without distractions.
  2. Ask yourself: How am I feeling, right now? and what am I feeling right now?
  3. Take notice of the answer your body gives you. Be open to experiencing whatever sensation or feeling that may come up for you.

Remember, it’s ok to feel things, even if they aren’t good feelings at the time. They will pass.

We need to allow ourselves to feel otherwise it builds up in us. Feeling is a gift. It is what can help us grow.

If it feels a bit too much, you can start by taking a moment to hold an object and focus on how it feels in your hand.

Notice it’s surface.  What does it’s weight feel like in your hand? Is it dry, sticky, scratchy, wet, slippery? What ways can you hold it in your hands? Can you turn it about and see how it feels different to touch?


Bowie Stover Thinking Pose

Bowie Stover

Pronouns: they/them

My passion to help others through developing an active and healthy lifestyle, along with my desire to contribute as much as I can back to our queer community, has led me to co-found Non Gendered Fitness. To be a small part of your day that makes a HUGE impact on your life would be one of the most gratifying and rewarding experiences that I could hope to have.

Download the app. Daily Training Sessions. Habit Coaching. Join The Community. Start Now.

Get in touch

Got any questions about this episode?
Share your thoughts with us in the comments section below! We’d love to hear from you!

Would you like to learn about how we may be able to support you?
Feel free to go to our contact page and send us a message.

Interested in online training?
Jump in and try out our 7 day free trial.



You can also find me (Bowie), Non Gendered Fitness (NGF) and Non Gendered Fitness (NGF) on instagram and Facebook at the links below.

Bowie: @the.no.t.enbie
NGF: @non_gendered_fitness



Non Gendered Fitness FB Page

Non Binary Fitness Coach Bowie Stover kneeling with two kettlebells

Bowie Stover
Kettlebell and Movement Coach

Other Episodes You Might Like…

[Episode 76] How Do Muscles Grow

[Episode 76] How Do Muscles Grow

In this episode we will be continuing on with our look at important things you need to know about the body. Next in this mini-series, we talk about the question, ‘how do muscles grow?’     Because one of the most common things I hear folks say when they...

read more

What did you think of this podcast episode?


Submit a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Pin It on Pinterest